like mother,like daughter

My mom likes to tell me me that all men are bad and I understand because she broke up with my ex-step-dad that she would feel like that,but then she tells me she's seeing someone else and I'm completely confused,I thought all men were evil.She said she told me about it because she thought I would like to know that she's happy and I asked what does being with a guy have to do with being happy?,she said it's because she's a women.I must not be a women yet because I don't understand at all.She left my step-monster about a month ago but she says they haven't "been" together in years.Shouldn't there be some recovery time shouldn't she be happy that he's not controlling her life.I'm really angry about this because I saw it coming and hoped that my 43 yr. old mother would've learned by now but no she's falling into her same old ways of needing a man.Despite the fact I grew up hearing from my mother that all men are scum in some form or another I don't hate men,I think because my mom told me this and I,like every girl I rebelled and ended up in the same place as my mom,thinking that I might need someone to be happy and that being alone and being lonely are the same and it's not it can't be I refuse to believe that I'm going to have to always need to be in a relationship to be really happy,but the truth is that I'm really unhappy too but Ii has nothing to do with being single it's because I'm not where I want to be in my life and I know my mother feels the same way,so why can't she see that only she can make herself happy and a guy isn't always going to save her from herself?