who's gender is it anyway?

             Male and female gender roles are pretty clear.Women are feminine and men are masculine.It seems with men there's this double standard that they can't be feminine and be strong.Everytime a man has something or does something that is considered feminine they "manify" it.For example if a guy has a purse they call it a man purse,if a man discloses he has or had anorexia they call it "manorexia",what the hell is that? Even if men do things like get highlights or they go to spas people call them metrosexual.Women can be masculan and tough and it's considered sexy.I think it's because people don't take female sexuality seriously,a woman can be a lesbian and people think if the right man came along she'll change,but if you're a man and gay you're gay and that's it.Why isn't okay for a man to be sensitive?We all start off as women in the womb and some change to male or they become something in between,so if they start off female isn't being atleast alittle feminine okay?Besides nature we always get the notion of clearly defined gender roles from what we see on T.V.Women are sex objects and men objectify them,this is a general statement because I know not every show,movie,song is like that.Male sexuality seems to be more threatening than female because a man is supposed to be unfeeling and if you're gay on a show that's not on cable you don't have a sexuality you're just apart of a morality plotline.I just feel that people should beable to be and feel how they want,if you want to be tough be tough,if you want to show your feelings do so but for men there is this need to be man you don't want to be a women,they weak and soft,which is not true but the preception for some.I;m glad I'm a women who gets to be strong and soft,sweet and tough without worrying if someone is questioning my feminity.